How to Overcome Fear of Failure

By Riley •  Updated: 05/26/20 •  8 min read
How to Overcome The Fear of Failure

Many of us have a fear of failure.

As human, we naturally want to do well in life.

And that’s why so many of us have a fear of failure. People dread the thought of failure.

But why exactly do we dread it?

We worry about embarrassing ourselves in front of the people we love the most.

And feel self-conscious about disappointing ourselves, too.

We agonize about the possibility of making regretful mistakes. Mistakes that can jeopardize our future and upcoming opportunities in general. And even though it’s normal to somewhat fear failure.

The fear of failure can become a problem.

Especially when we give it power. Failure can leave you emotionally crippled. Consume you and affect the course of your life.

That’s why YOU have to figure out what you can do to control any fears you might have. You need to find a way to say goodbye to your fear of failure forever.

And if you want to leave behind the anxiety you have with the fear of failure for the rest of your life, try these effective strategies out as soon as possible.

Because the sooner you can abandon your fear of failure, the sooner you can get on with your life.

And start moving in a better, more rewarding direction.

Consider Failure a Friend

Change the way you view failure. Start viewing failure as being a precious opportunity for you to learn.

If you fail miserably at something, then it may give you a lot of guidance.

Guidance that can pave the way for a brighter, more knowledgable future. So if you failed during your first attempt, try again. Just examine the situation.

And then ask yourself some questions. Put a plan or course of action in place. And then get back up and try again.

For Example:

If you’ve failed at making money with your art, a new business, or getting a college degree, pinpoint exactly what went wrong.

If you pinpoint what went wrong you’ll get a better understanding of how to fix it and do better. You’ll learn what NOT to do next time and stay away from things that don’t lead to the outcome you’re looking for.

Instead of being afraid of failure, you’ve embraced it. And in doing so you’ll have learned a helpful life lesson. There are no failures. Only OUTCOMES.

Understand Failure Is Essential

If you’re like most people, you want to do well.

You don’t just want to survive. You want to thrive. And that’s why it’s important you acknowledge – success and failure go hand in hand.

If you never try anything, you won’t ever succeed.

Which is why it can be helpful to speak with people you know who’ve accomplished a lot. Even better if it’s similar to something you yourself want to accomplish.

They can share with you some of the failures, problems, and roadblocks they themselves have encountered. And ways to prevent and get around them.

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They might even share with you some of the things that went wrong. Things they once believed they’d never recover from as well.

But, if you want to be successful, and live an amazing life with little to no regrets.

You have to acknowledge failure. And be okay with the occasional failures you’ll encounter on your journey. Because they are unavoidable.

It’s a part of the process and something YOU have to go through.

Admit Failure is Constructive Criticism

While it’s nice to “hear what you want to hear.”

This has never helped anyone in the end.

Constructive criticism is truthfully the thing that can create good, meaningful change in people and society.

So if you want to do away with your anxiety regarding failure, you should admit to yourself failure is a form of constructive criticism.

It can communicate to you accurately and sincerely something is wrong or off.

That you haven’t yet found the solution you are searching for. And there are still a few adjustments that need to be made.

But in every failure know this… there is a lesson.

Something you can pivot from. Something you can learn and grow from. Because failure knows no mercy.

It won’t take it easy on you.

But failure can be more honest and helpful than any friend or family member you have.

Know Failure Isn’t Something You Can Avoid

You should never assume there are people on this planet who have managed to dodge failure completely.

People with this fortunate do not exist.

It doesn’t matter if you’re attempting to beat the lines at your local grocery store on the weekend.

Or the become the best photographer in town.

It’s never really possible to steer entirely clear of failure.

And yes you might not fail at something for quite some time. But in the end, nobody’s perfect. And while we can strive to be perfect in all that we do…

Perfection day in and day out is just not realistic.

All things come with a degree of risk in this world, and that’s a fact.

Overcome Your Fear of Failure By Telling Yourself Life is Short

People often say they regret the things they never tried more than the things they did end up actually trying.

That’s because life is short.

Here today. Gone tomorrow.

Which is why you should cherish it.

So if you want to eliminate your failure based mindset, remember this…

NOTHING lasts forever.

Seize the day and lead a life that’s free of regret.

Which is why I’ll say it again – Nothing is permanent. Everything is here today and gone tomorrow.

Picture Yourself Doing Well

For many of us, we always assume the worst.

And for a lot of us we just can’t help it.

Most of the time we don’t think things will go smoothly. Nor will things end end up going our way. But if you want to get rid of this crippling fear, picture things going right in life.

Imagine and visualize things going your way for once.

And then do it again and again.

Picture getting a fantastic grade on a tough assessment.

Picture the woman or man of your dreams saying “yes” enthusiastically when you ask him or her out on that date.

But above all, just picture things going your way.

Failure and Success

Envision beautiful outcomes.

And then envision all the small, necessary steps you need to take in order to get the results you are looking for.

Because picturing and manifesting good things can give your self-confidence a major boost.

And it can also make you do a lot better or perform at a higher level with anything you end up trying.

The Fear of Failure Does Not Determine Who You Are Nor What You’re Capable Of

If you want to get over being afraid of failure, you have to tell yourself the truth.

The full truth is your fear of failure has NOTHING to do with who you are and your identity.

It doesn’t affect your identity or sense of self in any way, shape or form.

Because failing doesn’t mean you‘re a failure.

It simply means you’re a living, breathing human being.

One who does things and makes mistakes. And besides… the majority of failures are short.

Remember – nothing lasts forever.

Not even temporary setbacks and failures.

So Be Good to Yourself

You can banish your fear of failure by being good to yourself any time you actually do encounter setbacks.

You shouldn’t give power to your fear of failure. And you shouldn’t make the possibility of failing become a horrible trigger.

Give yourself a break if things don’t work out.

Use failure as a valuable opportunity. An opportunity to recharge.

Take a break and go for a breather if you must.

Do something else for a little while like:

Just turn failure into an opportunity by finding a way to recharge your mind and body.

And when you do that, you may come back even stronger than ever.

Because if left unchecked, the fear of failure can be destructive.

It can stop you from thinking in a clear and straightforward way.

And it often leads to a significant degree of self-doubt. Doubt that can and will wreak havoc on your mind and actions if allowed.

Make Your Fear of Failure a Thing of the Past

You can make failure a thing of the past by concentrating on your priorities.

Remember, nothing in this world is permanent.

And that applies to both good and bad circumstances. Keep this in mind as you go along on your journey. This one time journey called life.

Because time is precious.

So… get over your fear of failure and don’t sweat the small things so much.

And when you finally do leave the fear of failure behind, you’ll feel as free as ever.

Conquering that fear WILL make you a stronger, more resilient individual. Allowing you to actually LIVE.

If you’ve read this far, thanks for reading.

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Adran Riley is the co-founder of Red October Firm, a photography and graphic design studio in Bloomfield, CT. He's been in the web design and SEO industry since 2015. His mission is to help others share and do what they love online. That way, they can build and connect with even more people.

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